If you are going through a divorce involving children, be sure to seek advice from a counselor. It is a very difficult and stressful process. I often see parents that think they are saying and doing the right things to protect their children and in fact they are causing them harm.

According to the Clinical Psychology Associates of North Central Florida in Gainesville and Ocala, “a preschooler's reaction to and ability to understand their parents' divorce will be very different from that of an adolescent. A child's beliefs about divorce will change over time due to their cognitive maturity and evolving relationships with their parents.”

“Awareness and sensitivity to the developmental differences in children's reaction to divorce can provide parents with insight in how to talk to their children to help in their adjustment. Researchers have found that children in divorced families, where there is little conflict following the divorce, do not differ in adjustment than children from low conflict intact families.”